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d_critic

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report post Post #15 December 2007, 11:10 


http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,314620,00.html ... just copy and paste the link, as it is not working properly...

Sad news…

This one, I think is worth tackling or saying something about... because at one point, I believe, we, net people, all had our fair share of experiencing the same (or similar) , be it we’re the victim or the offender…

Just an overview of the article…

One 13-year old girl has committed suicide after some guy had dumped her on the net… the girl, btw, was already on medications about having some problems before the said…

Apparently, one mother have asked her employee to create a fictitious (male, Josh) MySpace account as to make friends and gain the confidence of the girl… reason being is that she wanted to know what the girl is saying about her own daughter online…

Josh then, successfully made an online relationship with the girl, then dumped her in the end and it was said that he had been saying nasty and vulgar things about her which made her take her own life…

After the investigation, it was found out that the said account was fictitious and the cohorts involves the mother, her 13-year old girl and the 18-year old employee who created Josh…

Ok, lessons learned, or at least, should be learnt…

To the mastermind…

I am a parent myself… and I think what this mother had done has been so out of line, no matter where you look at it… For crying out loud! She is an ADULT, A MOTHER… How could she have thought of such a conniving plan… to even think that it was intended to target a teenage girl… DOESN’T matter IF she has meant to inflict emotional and mental pain or NOT! The point IS, it’s still so dead wrong…

Ok, it’s understandable that she, herself, loves and protects her child against possible cyber bullying… But would doing the said and playing mental games on another person, especially if it’s a child, resolve anything? Obviously, not…

First off… if the two teenagers, really know each other personally, she should have spoken to the parents or the child first calmly and personally… And if nothing happens, then she shoulda just put it into the attention of authorities of some sort like the school counselor and the likes… instead of resorting to such low act…

Has she ever thought if the same was made against her daughter, what would she have done?

We, parents, must strive hard to be better people, set, show and serve good examples to our child / children in order for them to be stronger and better people too… for themselves and for the mankind as a whole… the world, us people, already have a lot of problems… and the least we can do, is not to inflict more…

To the would-be victims of cyber bullying…

Let us not all forget that this is the net and talk is cheap… people can tell us everything they want… they can mess up with our heads, ONLY if we allow them to…

If they have the capability of harming you physically, then, it’s time to alert people or authorities who can help…

What matters is that, no matter what you do and where you go… be it here on the net or in the real world… always have a STRONG SENSE OF SELF and you’ll be ok… that even if you fall a lot of times, for sure in the end, you’d stand up more headstrong than before…

To the cohorts…

Well, what must I say? Shame on you … how weak could you possibly be by giving in to the whims of other sickos? You have your own head… look up the meaning of the word DISCERNMENT!!!

Anyhow, that’s all for now…


--- Lea Niña

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report post Post #25 December 2007, 11:23 
Tsk tsk... too bad. But anyway, I wouldn't agree talking on net is a cheap thing, I may say, the people are, those people who use the net to practice their malicious, unpleasant personalities.

A little decency and being true is all it takes to make it work, but not necessarily indulging yourself fully into it.

Anyway, I think with such a lesson is learned. There's no need to further elaborate what its all about, the article speaks for itself.

d_critic

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report post Post #35 December 2007, 11:36 
Thanks for the reply... anyway, I stand corrected in what I've said... talking on the net is not cheap all the time, that is ... as what I, myself, have been doing in the past few months... and I must say that, we could find some genuine people here as well... aside from us learning from each other in the process...

I guess, I intended to say that for those who just speak for the sake of speaking itself... without meaning it...

And like what I've said, no matter what, we must just have our strong sense of self... be it here or in the real world... so that no matter what other people say about us, won't bear that much...

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report post Post #45 December 2007, 11:46 
for me, its a worth enough lesson for those parents who are not able to cope with their children's ... its too early for the young one's to differentiate such cruel realities ... why we are not able to make them our best friends? to let them grow with such confidence that they don't look for such sick ppls. to play with their emotions

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report post Post #55 December 2007, 12:20 

Quote of user: ghuulam

for me, its a worth enough lesson for those parents who are not able to cope with their children's ... its too early for the young one's to differentiate such cruel realities ... why we are not able to make them our best friends? to let them grow with such confidence that they don't look for such sick ppls. to play with their emotions


The parents are yeah, a part to blame for it. Talk about parental guidance, it must be done the right way.

Still, the idea of being "cyber bullied" lies on the bullies themselves, if not for their intolerable acts, such a thing would not happen.

For those who did the bullying in that article, I guess their poor souls we're already buried deep within hell's catacombs. Good luck!

d_critic

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report post Post #65 December 2007, 12:39 

Quote of user: ghuulam

for me, its a worth enough lesson for those parents who are not able to cope with their children's ... its too early for the young one's to differentiate such cruel realities ...


Indeed... that's why I have said we, as parents or even, just mere adults... who have been through different phases in life, must serve as role models to our children or younger generations... help them be better people... and prevent ourselves or them from generating and spreading hate...

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report post Post #75 December 2007, 20:50 
I think it's tragic.

Bullying should not be tolerated.
As we all have learned while growing up and hearing stories of children who had been bullied by the same person over many years - they try committing suicide because they can never get rid of the person and that person has brought them down to nothing.

So, why aren't teachers doing much of anything to help prevent bullying from happening?!

That pisses me off when bullying is happening and the teacher doesn't try to prevent or eliminate the cause. The bully should be punished greatly for what he/she has done.

Remember: Bullies only bully you because they feel horrible about themselves and have a very LARGE self-esteem issue.

Don't feel horrible about yourself because of it. Bullies do it for a reason and the reason is ALL about himself.

So, if anyone knows of anyone who is being bullied: You have GOT to tell someone. I don't care who. Tell someone and they will help.

And as for MySpace, she just coulda blocked 'em and also reported it to Tom and he woulda deleted their account. lol.

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report post Post #86 December 2007, 08:42 

Quote of user: RoBEANo

I think it's tragic.

Bullying should not be tolerated.

So, why aren't teachers doing much of anything to help prevent bullying from happening?!

That pisses me off when bullying is happening and the teacher doesn't try to prevent or eliminate the cause. The bully should be punished greatly for what he/she has done.

Remember: Bullies only bully you because they feel horrible about themselves and have a very LARGE self-esteem issue.

Don't feel horrible about yourself because of it. Bullies do it for a reason and the reason is ALL about himself.

So, if anyone knows of anyone who is being bullied: You have GOT to tell someone. I don't care who. Tell someone and they will help.

And as for MySpace, she just coulda blocked 'em and also reported it to Tom and he woulda deleted their account. lol.


I agree, it is not to be tolerated, in any way...

Guess, the reason why some teachers don't do much to help prevent bullying in schools is that they, themselves are afraid to be bullied too... it's known that there in the States, teachers are more afraid of students... especially when youngsters are part of a certain gang or rich and have more access to guns, etc... or might be, they are afraid to lose their jobs, especially if they are already settled in one place...

Besides, we all know that same as everywhere, there are not too many people who would really stand up for a cause, until the end... not too many are ready to take the consequences... so, they just put a blind eye and probably just think and hope that the worst will pass if not tackled... which is so dead wrong...

Again, to the one being bullied... believe in yourself... don't let others trample on you... stand up for your right... ask for help...

Robin is right, it's all about them feeling horrible about themselves and they bully you so that they feel stronger and ignore that feeling they are havin' ... act now, don't let them mess up with your head, in any way or so....

Definitely, It's much harder to monitor and control cyber bullying...

So, guess parents must try to be more involved into their children's lives and online activities without intruding much, of course...

First, love and support their children into the core so as to prepare them for life's harshness by equipping them with enough self-esteem...

And in order to prevent this thing from happening again...

Quote of user: RoBEANo

And as for MySpace, she just coulda blocked 'em and also reported it to Tom and he woulda deleted their account. lol.


LOL! You certainly know the right people hahahaha... good for ya

Thanks for taking the time reading and replying peeps....

--- Lea Niña

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report post Post #930 September 2008, 03:28 
Seriously? Cyber bullying? Come on now. That's not real.

The only, and I'm talkin the ONLY way that someone can cyber bully you is if you let them.
I mean, Hello?! Don't be stupid people, tell them to go fuck themselves and turn off your computer. On second thought, why don't you just block the mother fucker? Ever think about that?

Yeah you should try it.

Next time, don't be stupid.

Thanks. =)

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